Changing My Identity Tomorrow?

Chris

Changing My Identity Tomorrow?

Chris
Wedding_RingsHow I identify myself used to depend on what was happening at that time. Before we were married, I identified myself as Mike's girlfriend, then we became engaged and I was his fiancee. Ten years ago we married and I became his wife.

As his health changed he developed chronic conditions and I became his caregiver. This change in identity seemed to bring a change in our relationship. Suddenly I was his personal nurse, his cheerleader and his therapist and the identity of being his wife seemed to take a back seat.

However, I think we both noticed this and decided on another change. This change hasn't been easy and didn't come quickly, but we have come out the other side stronger and more dedicated to each other as a couple. We refused to wait until tomorrow because sometimes tomorrow is too late.

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Chris

The biggest step for Mike and I to make the change was to date. I know it sounds a little comical, but we would plan one night a week where we would just focus on each other and not what was going on. When he was up to it we went out, but when we couldn't it just meant playing cards and watching Mel Brooks movies. It was good to laugh... even if we didn't really feel like it.

Chris

The word I would use to describe myself would be human... I wanted to write super woman, but that seemed redundant lol. I am human, complete with strengths, faults, wants and needs.

Denise

Hi Chris! I'm so glad you're journaling! (And, feel free to start a blog, too.) \r\n\r\nA caregiving day can require different identities at different times. It's hard to make that switch, especially when the rquired switch is immediate.\r\n\r\nI'm curious: What's the identity that's just for you? Meaning, if you had a word to describe who you are--just you--what would it be?\r\n\r\n:)