Confessions of a First-Time Caregiver - Part 3


Confessions of a First-Time Caregiver - Part 3

pen-631332_640A Letter To My Mother

Dear Mom,

Firstly, you are incredible. I cannot imagine what you are feeling right now. We're all working very hard to be strong and keep it together, but you are "Superwoman."

I admire your dedication, your resilience, and your perseverance. Even though you broke down that one time with me in the hospital when Dad said he wanted to go home, that does not take away from how you've handled yourself through all this. You've had to continue to run your home, make critical decisions, field family, friends, and well-wishers (even the ones who overstayed their welcome). And you've done it with such finesse.

Even though you told me that Dad is your responsibility when we leave, know that we're never going to leave you alone. With all you have going on, no one thought it would be you caring for Dad at this point in time. He was already looking after you. It's a blessing that you have been able to care for him now. 

Because of your own health issues we tend to swoop in and do everything in an effort to relieve you. I'm glad to see you taking initiative with helping dress, bathe and care for Dad anyway. I'm proud of you working through your intense leg pain, managing type 2 diabetes and hypertension, and struggling to comprehend because of your hearing issues.

I love it when it's just the two of us. We're so much alike in many ways. I may look like my father, but our minds are cut from similar cloth. I hope you will never have to suffer. I hope that you won't have to be cared for to this extent. I know you wouldn't like that. :-)

I thank God for you; now and always.