"Doctors Don't Cure; They Just Get Rich"

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"Doctors Don't Cure; They Just Get Rich"

corvina
irritant-98843_640I asked my mother how her doctor's appointment went today and she gave me her usual response: "Doctors don't cure; they just get rich."

Her voice changes when she says that. It's a voice that I only hear when it she talks about doctor appointments. I become immediately irritated. Even though I don't entirely disagree with the statement, it sounds irrational and ridiculous. I try to hear what's behind the statement and this is what I come up with: She's angry because they haven't "fixed" her. I tell her as delicately as possible that her doctors cannot "cure" her diabetes, allergies or cancer (she has stage four cancer). They can only contain and manage her discomfort and pain.

Now I'm in entering dangerous territory. She does not like to hear anything that she perceives as contradicting her opinion. She stops her rant for a moment. I continue by telling her that she too must do her part to control her diabetes and allergies by avoiding harmful foods (I dare not mention the seven packs of cookies she has stashed in a dresser drawer). There's a pause and then she will say, "We'll see what happens." That's her way of ending a conversation. It means nothing will change. She will continue to eat cookies, ice cream, canned fruit, pastries and candy.

Meanwhile, I will continue to make doctors appointments to and prepare myself to  hear, "Doctors don't cure; they just get rich."

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corvina

Thank you for the advice. I've thought of making a surprise visit. It's hard to be spontaneous when my mom lives in another state. As for her doctor....that's for another blog.

corvina

It's a very sad state of affairs.

diane

I completely agree. They may care until they can't prescribe (they are just scrip writers). Then they send you off to their doctor friends so they can cash in, too.

jan

Thanks for sharing your day, Corvina. It is so hard to fight against futility, but you are doing it with grace and compassion. Really appreciate your thoughtful writing style. Good luck.

corvina

Hi,\r\n\r\nThanks for your comment. I feel you really \"got\" my message. Good to be heard and understood.\r\n\r\nI started writing another blog but was too emotionally drained to see it through. May be the morning will bring me the energy I need to write.\r\n\r\nxx

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