Entry 1: May 21, 2015


Entry 1: May 21, 2015

(Editor's Note: Today, we welcome Carol to our blogging team. You can connect with Carol on her profile page: @carolk.)

types-738846_640Having never written anything that goes into a blog, I decided to see how this goes. after I got a note from Denise.

I am dealing with my husband's constant back/disks/spine pain and it is unsettling for me--he is usually so stoic -and now I am having to do way more then I usually do and am out of my comfort zone.  It scares me as we are both in our late 60's with no family or friends nearby--no children at all.  I have eye problems and having to drive him in the heavy city traffic is a bit mind blowing.  My new mantra is "I can handle this and do what's necessary"--even if I'm scared. I take deep breaths and focus on my task and made the decision if the monsoons rains are here I will not risk both of us and go to another course of action.  That took away my panic when I made the choice not to drive in heavy rain.

Anyways, the hardest part is understanding that this is out of my control and accepting it. My hubby will either recover or not or have surgery or whatever happens, I will deal with it--we will deal with it.  I have to take care of me---that's how I found the site, looking for self help as a care giver.  So I will ramble on--sorting out my head as I go along and taking some deep breaths as I type away.

See you soon,


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The terror of I 95! So well put, Pegi. When my husband crashes, it's off to Yale and that means I 95. Frankly, I'm amazed we've always gotten there in one piece. But no choice. If I call the ambulance they will take him to the local hospital and I can't guarantee they will authorize an ambulance transfer to Yale. I hate I 95 with a passion!


Hi Carol, \r\n\r\nI am so glad you are blogging!! Please keep writing to us--you can blog as often as you'd like.\r\n\r\nI've been thinking about choice lately. During caregiving, so much choice goes out the window. We often are just at the mercy of the med schedule, the doctors' appointments, the care. We can get so used to not having a choice that we forgot we do have some choice. So, I love your choice not to drive in the pouring rain. And, I love your choice to find support for you. I'm glad that choice brought you to us.\r\n\r\nI hope the typing and the breathing brought you relief from the stress.