Grateful for August


Grateful for August

imageIt has been a while since I've been here. Lots going on at home, work, kids, Mom.

Mom was released from the nursing home on July 9. She was ecstatic. Called me about 4 times as I was getting ready that morning to go get her. Like a kid at Christmas.

We arrived home around 11 a.m. Got her settled and headed off to work with 16 year old who was going to help around the office that day, leaving her home with my husband. We all met for dinner at a restaurant to celebrate. Dan brought Mom, and they were already there when son and I arrived. She felt terrible, so I ran her home before she even had a chance to eat, then went back and ate with the boys. Took dinner home to her.

She wouldn't eat, was very weak and disoriented. Maybe she just needed a good night's sleep - had been up all night the night before too excited about coming home to sleep. I sat her in her chair and went to get her bed ready - and she became incontinent. She had had full bladder control for weeks so this is when the alarm bells in my head start going off, and I have Dan call 911. Paramedics come. They scare her into going to the hospital. It's 8 p.m. She's been home for 9 hours.

ER docs determine that her sodium levels are out of whack due to the diuretics she'd been taking for edema. They start her on an IV drip and tell her she will need to be in the hospital for a day or two while they slowly bring it up. I've got a conference 6 hours away that I am supposed to leave for at 5 a.m. on July 10. Not something I can miss. I call Dan, he says still go, he will deal with Mom.

She let me leave the hospital at 2 a.m. She was still in the ER waiting on a bed. They kept her until the 11th. Dan was amazing, by the time I got home Sunday had gone through 3 iterations of medications charts to help her/us keep everything straight, and she had been home for nearly 24 hours without further incident. She seems to take things so much better from him.

Throughout that week, there were multiple doctors appointments, getting used to being home, etc. Her medication is kept upstairs, so she can't hide from the world/us as had been her prior practice. She started taking most of her meals upstairs, too. Just seeing her when I am getting ready for work, Hi and a hug in the morning. Being part of the family.

My brother came and got her on Saturday, the 19th, and she stayed with his family until the 26th. She had a great time, went to his kids' activities, etc. Fully engaged.

Since she came home, we are all settling in to the new routine - the new normal. Most of her food is still kept upstairs, and she eats up there around people (even if the kids aren't having lunch, etc. although she'll join them if they are). Her apartment is in the basement, and she used to be adamant about us keeping the basement door in the kitchen closed, because we made too much noise. Her most recent request to me was to please remind the boys to keep the kitchen door open, so she can hear what's going on.

A sea change.

I am so very happy to see May, June and July in our rear view mirrors. I am hopeful, optimistic about August. I just hope and pray she continues to embrace her life, and her family, and doesn't revert to hiding from it.

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How attentive you are, Dawn, to all the little details of your mom's life. Her medicine, her socializing, what is normal and what is not. \"Doing it all right!\", I'd say. How wonderful the spark to connect is still there and she still has a role to play, a place. Thanks for sharing your summer.


Thanks, Pegi! I'm thinking there are lots of things to be hopeful about. Have a great weekend yourself.


Hi Dawn--I was thinking of you yesterday. :)\r\n\r\nI can understand why you are glad to turn the page on the calendar. Wow! So much and without time to breath. \r\n\r\nYour husband sounds wonderful. I wonder if you feel guilty when he has to take the reigns, even temporarily? I would struggle with that, getting caught up in the thought that this is my situation that I must manage. Just curious if guilt enters the equation for you. :)\r\n\r\nWere you able to do anything fun with the kids during your mom's visit with your brother?\r\n\r\nI'm so glad you could give us an update. I sooo hope August proves calm.