Grief as a Blessing

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Grief as a Blessing

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My homework assignment this week is for me to reflect on the stages of my journey from Caregiver into Grief. Guilt and on onto Widowhood.

Yes flip-flopping is allowed and I realize that I experienced all three stages even as a caregiver. This is a complex, but exciting journey, a blessing, and a lesson in humbleness. I am grateful for the opportunity to travel this path.

I have started to refer to the in-between stage of grief.guilt as the Zombie stage. I may pause there for a while, but I must not stay there. My sweet Elsie demands more of me. I am not finished with this difficult journey until I emerge into a Widower.

Grief is part of my adventure of recovery and a blessing. It's proof that I have made a transition from drunken sailor to a responsible human being. For a drunk experiencing grief without deadening it with alcohol or drugs is a sign of progress and is both a blessing and a lesson in humbleness.

And yes Denise, a butterfly picture is called for, it's the perfect metaphor for this journey that I am on. Your caregiving.com plays a big part in my transition. Many thanks to you and the others responsible for its existence.