Hey! I Need Some Light in Here!
Helen
Hey! I Need Some Light in Here!
Helen

There's this thought that sneaks in when I'm not looking. I turn around and there it is, snout in my face with its rank breath and snarling fangs. At the rate it's been going, by the time we are through this, I will be too old. There will be no opportunities left for gainful employment, no time remaining to develop rewarding relationships. This is it. Life is over.
At first this notion that I'll be too old takes me to a dark place. It's like running full speed into a brick wall, bouncing off it to land face down, battered, bruised, and left with a concussion. After finally getting a definitive diagnosis last year, I've dragged myself up to sit dazedly against the brick wall. Instead of knocked for a loop, I'm now reeling in bewildered consternation that ... here we are already at the end of our "productive years." While I lean against this rough, nasty wall catching my breath, I discover I'm bleeding, my life energy going down the drain. I'm so tired and we have hardly started.
The shock of it is fading now. I'm on my feet and stumbling around in a gray world that moves in and out of focus, flickering between reality and an odd sort of conscious denial. I wonder if the blurry fog will ever dissipate. I wonder what's lurking in the dark corners of this claustrophobic room. Hey! I need some light in here!
I catch a glimpse of what my task will be. It has something to do with getting comfortable in the murky shadows and dark corners, learning a new skill getting through sticky, cloying cobwebs and taking musty sheets off strange pieces of furniture. I get to know their shapes as I dust off their surfaces, feel my way as I become familiar with where everything is. Instead of a wide, bright world to go rambling in, I have this complex room to learn to navigate. I just have to change my focus from the horizon to this room. I can get to know it. I can learn to re-create my self in this room....
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