I Just Don't Know What to Do....


I Just Don't Know What to Do....

clouds-353834_640This morning I am at a loss of what to do.

I have serious concerns that my mom isn't getting good care from her doctor. We are both a bit afraid that if and when we disagree, the doctor will punish us with taking away meds and or dismissing serious issues that crop up (as is currently happening).

Our hands are tied as this is the doctor that we have and we don't have another choice. We live in a rural area. We are trying to get home health but it could be a few years away. I get the feeling that they think my mom is just too much trouble. That they don't care to even try to help my mom because she has so many issues, that it isn't even worth it anymore.

I feel like they would be relieved if she just went away. Maybe I am reading too much into this, maybe I am overly sensitive. I don't know. I just want the very best care for my mom. I treasure her and I will fight for her until my very last breath.

Maybe I am just feeling a bit overwhelmed. I just don't know. Sorry to dump all of this here.

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Oh how frustrating when you have little choice and don't trust what's happening with the doctor. I grew up in really small town, and doctors were scarce. \r\n\r\nMaybe you are being over sensitive or reading things into the situation, but lots of times when I've listened to my gut, it was right. You still deserve answers either way.\r\n\r\nEven now, after I have learned to be assertive, I still struggle with doctors appointments. Sometimes because of concern and worry, and other times I forget stuff. I found this presentation about how to communicate with healthcare professionals helpful. If you need to take a break from it, you can come back and it usually remembers where you left off. \r\nHere is the link: http://www.caregiving.support/communication.html


I'm in about the same boat, without the above help. Keep looking up and hope for the best! :)


I totally understand your concerns and you should listen to your intuition on this. I have had similar questions about my husband's GP and yesterday was able to get a referral and an appointment with another doctor for Monday next week. I feel I need to get another opinion on the treatment (or lack thereof) that he is currently getting. It seems that doctors don't want to spend their time on people who have no/very little chance of improving and thus put our loved ones on the back burner. This is unacceptable. At the very least we need to be properly informed but they don't want to put themselves through the stress of having this conversation with us. \r\n\r\nCan you look for someone in the next town to consult with? Try getting a referral from a R.N. or someone like that.


Maybe a silly question, but have you tried to voice your concerns assertively, with your Doctor, assertively? It is worth a shot and he may be consciously unaware of his behavior....signals he is sending..........or not sending. Communication about your concerns may make a difference.


I agree with everyone else on ALL points. You should trust your intuition on this. It is right on point and not uncommon situation, unfortunately the rural piece does make a difference.

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