I Knew Thanksgiving Would be Different This Year

soup-257521_640But not this different! With our parents all now gone, this Thanksgiving was going to be very different for hubby and I. Our daughter’s boyfriend is the turkey master in his family. He will be frying two turkeys at his mother’s house. His sisters and brothers will be there with the grandchildren and his mom has invited Kate’s brother and us to join them. As two only children whose childhood Thanksgivings consisted of a maximum of five, maybe seven people, hubby and I were anticipating being way, way out of our comfort zones!

Alas, it was not to be. Our comfort zones still safely intact, we are sitting together anticipating soup and sandwiches or leftover chicken pot pie thanks to a massive upper respiratory infection I got over a week ago and promptly shared with hubby. Wow, Thanksgiving is now reduced to two!

Last night we were watching Blue Bloods, having recently discovered it (years later than the normal viewing public, as usual). We were both struck by the family meal of four generations. We reflected that if we came back to this life again, we would want to have brothers and sisters. I think we were both feeling lonely. Even though we are only in our late 60’s and have two of the most wonderful children we could imagine, we do not have any brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces or grandchildren to fill the family table. I think we were imagining what it might be like to be part of a big family.

We are so thankful for each other, for our children and our relatively good health. We have enjoyed this last year to ourselves since Mom passed away. But I think the time has come for us to look toward the future. What will be important to us? What will be meaningful? What will we be doing next Thanksgiving? What in our lives will we be thankful for? Only time will tell.

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