I Still Do

Mar

I Still Do

Mar
July 1, 1978.image

"Do you, Marcia, take Tom to be your husband? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both shall live?"

"I do. I will."

July 1, 2015.

Today, we got the worn box off the closet shelf that reads "Wedding Keepsakes."

I had asked Tom if we could get the ladder and bring it down from the high shelf. I wanted to see our vows again, having long forgotten exactly how they read. I knew we adapted them ourselves (it was the 70's after all), and I certainly did not intend to use the word "obey" if I didn't mean it. That word didn't characterize the type of marriage I hoped we would have.

And so, this morning, standing in our greatly-needing-to-be-organized garage, I read my vows off the yellowed paper to Tom again.

"I take you, Tom, to be my husband. I promise before God and these witnesses to be your faithful wife; to respect, trust, help, and care for you; to share with you in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, to forgive and strengthen you and to join with you so that together we may serve God as long as we both shall live."

This evening, Tom said, "I didn't say my vows to you again yet."  And I suggested that we choose a pretty outdoor spot, standing in front of our newly planted dahlias, to have our own private "vow renewal ceremony."

And so we did.  And I cried just as I had on July 1, 1978, when I had for the first time looked into his eyes and called him "husband."

We also wrote prayers for that day, and we prayed those anew also. I'll quote mine here:

"Lord, help me to be the wife you want me to be.  Help me to initiate love where there is strife and peace where there is tension.  Fill me with your Spirit and teach me how to have self-less love for Tom.  Continue my wonder at our love, so that I will not take Tom or our relationship for granted.  Thank you for the man you have chosen to be my husband.  I commit myself to You, Lord, and to your plan for your lives."

July 1, 2015

Tom, Happy 37th Anniversary.

I still do.  I still will.

Love,

Mar