

Importance of Boundaries
Kristen-3
Importance of Boundaries
Kristen-3

I struggle with setting boundaries quite a bit. Caring for my husband, I want him to be happy and comfortable yet these are things I cannot always control, nor should I have to. We all have to deal with inconveniences and life as it is; I have to repeatedly tell myself it is not my job to be sure he is happy. If he wants to stay up late but I need rest, I can draw that line and say "I'm going to bed." I can say "I need to get out of this house" and find someone else to care for him during that time. I can outsource care he'd rather I do, despite who he'd "prefer" helps. I can refuse to make him cookies when I have a different list of priorities, no matter how strong his craving.
I debate internally whether doing things his way is an act of love on my part, or an act of compliance. I know I avoid conflict, and I'd rather just do something to appease someone than put up a fight, especially when I'm already struggling with fatigue. Learning to say NO is something I'm still... well, learning!
Here's my latest blog post on setting boundaries. Something I know I need to keep working on because it is a huge part of self care & self compassion!
https://thethrivingcaregiver.com/2019/10/08/because-boundaries/
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