Is Caregiving a Burden?

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Is Caregiving a Burden?

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tree-damaged-by-fall-snow-storm-600x400The research released Thursday by Pew Research Center has still been getting a lot of press coverage. It's always interesting to read how the press describes what you do. Once in awhile, the word "burden" will be used; "caregiving burden" a reporter will write.

I'm curious how you feel about the word burden as it relates to caregiving. Do you feel burdened? Do you like to be able to use the word "burden" to describe how you feel but prefer that others don't? Do certain tasks and responsibilities feel like a burden? Does the whole experience feel like it's a burden? If you don't feel burdened, why do you think that is?

Please share your thoughts and experiences in our comments section, below.

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Sue

I would say yes, its a burden, but it is a welcome burden - one we take on willingly and most often happily. But, it is a burden. It is a weight to carry though. I know that my husband and I often say that we hope that parents of healthy kids appreciate what they have, because it is hard. \r\n\r\nI also think that we need to own it. Otherwise, those who feel that burden feel bad about saying it is a burden. They feel guilty. They want to hide it and end up suffering more because of that hidden truth. So, I will say yes, it is a burden. One that we don't shy away from carrying though. And with it comes some blessings as well...

Il

Sometimes, sometimes not . . I was just about to say help! I'm in tears because my Dad is screaming at my Mom . . . it's hard to say I probably should step away but how can I when I'm in my parents' home???? I'm here and there is no way I can't caregive in some way or another. Burden . . . I think I agree with EJ that I already beat myself up enough so if I use the word Burden it perpetuates the hurt I grew up with and hinders my ability to give. I guess the word caregive = give to me. And I, too, feel alone . . . alot . . . no support . . . so this site is amazing.\r\n\r\nil

ejourneys

\"Burden\" is a <i>huge</i> baggage word for me because I grew up being reminded about how much of a burden I was. It's something I never want to unleash on another person. In my worst moments I do battle with that inner voice that wants to perpetuate the hurt.\r\n\r\nWhen I am physically and emotionally drained and my partner is pushing all my buttons, that's when I do battle with myself. The rest of the time, I don't think in those terms. It's hard, it's frustrating, but it's also liberating and a blessing. It's <i>real</i> (including the part where I'm dealing with my partner's delusions).\r\n\r\nI agree completely with <a href='http://www.m40.siteground.biz/~caregiv6/members/dian1122/' rel=\"nofollow\">@dian1122</a> -- having support makes a world of difference. We are all in this together.

Maria

Is caregiving a burden? While is full of responsibility and a hard job is not a burden. When I was caring for my Grandfather and Aunt I felt like I was given the highest honor of taking care of them. My Grandfather&amp; I were very close and I spent alot of time with him &amp; my Grandparents when I was a kid. I felt that by taking care of him when he needed my help I was repaying him for what he did for me.\r\nMaria

Denise

<a href='http://www.m40.siteground.biz/~caregiv6/members/dian1122/' rel=\"nofollow\">@dian1122</a> I'm so glad you posted. Would you like to start blogging on CareGiving.com? I'd love it, if you are interested. :) It's a nice way to write out the day and feel our support. You can start whenever you want. (And, this video shows you how: http://www.m40.siteground.biz/~caregiv6/2012/12/how-to-start-a-blog/

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