Island of One, EpisodeTwo

Jen

Island of One, EpisodeTwo

Jen
bank-192991_640I wish I had a snappy title for this, but really, it's just a continuation of the last one. Very little has changed.

My mom is in slightly better spirits. She started an anti-depressant two weeks ago and I think it has helped. She attended a stroke-survivor support group and enjoyed it. It only meets once a month, but it's something, and we'll go again this month. She researched residences to move to when she gets benefits, and then she started researching equine and water therapy on her own. We're actually visiting one of the places next week and she's really excited about it. I hope it's as good as it sounds, because if it becomes regular, it will do wonders for her emotionally and physically. .

Her divorce still hasn't been filed and I can't reapply for her long-term disability coverage until it is. My brother in my mom's home state has had it for three weeks. He swears he will file on Monday. I really don't know how much longer I can do this alone. Well, I guess that's not true. You guys know how it is and have probably been in the trenches longer than me. I'll do it until it isn't needed anymore. I long for the day when we either qualify for in-home assistance or she moves into assisted living. I have it all planned out, The kids and I are staying in bed for a week. lol

The guardianship process seems to be going smoothly. I am already her guardian, but not in my home-state, so I have to reapply here. Court is later this month, we have home visits scheduled with a social worker and her court-appointed attorney. I swear, some days, I feel like a hamster running in a wheel. I go and I go and I go, yet we're in the exact same place.

Despite these hard days, I still know I did the right thing by bringing her here. Had I known how difficult this would be, I might have chickened out. I am grateful for the naivety. She is healthy, well, and making progress. She wants to build a life again, and even though she often refuses to accept the limitations of her disability, that's probably why she is still alive and progressing.

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jan

So many details, plans, appointments, and you are meeting each one and pressing forward. That is fabulous. You and she have so much going for you with a good result as your goal. Hopefully the time will come when you turn around, look back, and all this is a memory, with her enjoying new, life full and content.

Denise

I'm so glad to hear from you, Jen.\r\n\r\nI know it may seem like little has changed but wow! You've really made headway with positive changes--anti-depressant, a support group, searching residences, progress with guardianship. These really are huge positive changes. Your tenacity is really paying off.\r\n\r\nIndividually, these steps may appear small. But, lined up, they are getting you where you want to be.\r\n\r\nI love your plan for when you get the help you need. :)\r\n\r\nThanks so much for keeping us in the loop. I hope the weekend gives you some breathing room and a break.