Let's Just Have a Do-Nothing-But-Fun Day

CathyJ

Let's Just Have a Do-Nothing-But-Fun Day

CathyJ
All weekend, I was excited for Tuesday. We didn’t have one single doctor’s appointment or place to be. The calendar was completely empty. I was determined that Mom and I would have just a fun day. I got some rocks ready to paint, got a jar that we could decorate, Skip Bo cards, a puzzle, sharpened the pruning sheers for the geraniums, had an old photo album out. I planned on letting mom pick an activity for us to do and then I was going to pick an activity. We were going to talk and just be carefree. Thought we might even soak our feet and pretend we were at a spa. It was all planned. And, you know what happens when a caregiver plans? The plans get changed.

Mom had a really rough night. Was up at least 15 times between 11:30 and 5:00 in the morning. Massive stomach issues. Again. I feel awful because I let her eat a little too much bread product yesterday, which seems to trigger the issues. So today, my glorious “let’s just do fun stuff day” is changed. Doing laundry. Cleaning commode. Being quiet so Mom can rest. Hiding cookies. And, looking at the empty activity table that has no “let’s just do fun staff day” happening.  And, kicking myself for not being diligent with the menu.

So typical of the caregiving journey. We plan, we bend, we change, we respond, we adjust, we research, we question, we act, we react…we just do. At first, I was pretty down because I think the planned day was just as much for me as it was for mom. There will be another day. I know there will. So, while the chair at our activity table is empty today, I am so grateful that it will be filled again tomorrow. I dread the day that it won’t be filled. I love my momma.

P.S. Just to share a little of her sense of humor and a bright spot today. I had put frozen burrito on the grill outside to defrost. It was wrapped in aluminum foil and I was only going to leave it for a little bit to jump start the thawing. My husband saw it and told mom it was out there. While I was not in the room, they conspired to hide that burrito and replace it with a foil-covered rock. I love my momma!