Letting Go So You Can Move On


Letting Go So You Can Move On

MOVINGBOXI have to admit, I am a little bit of a hoarder. Not in an extreme sense. I collect comic books and novels and stuffed animals. Yet, I collect household items which always get used.

The problem is I came from a very large family and everything "new" I received was actually a hand-me-down from my sister. I didn't have anything I could actually call my own until I got my first job when I was 14.

With my very first check, I remember I went and purchased a stereo. Mainly because I used to get grounded, A LOT, for talking back to my mom. Since I loved music, she would confiscate the cassette player she had got me as a Christmas present. One time she had it for a full six months because every time I asked if I could have it back, she extended my punishment another two weeks or a month, depending on her mood. Well, I thought, if I buy it with my own money, you can't take it. Which she didn't like that very much but my Dad stated simply, "She's right, Anne. She bought it, it's hers to do with whatever she likes." And since then I've held on to pretty much everything I've purchased for myself.

So, I am a little sentimental when it comes to 'my things' being left behind or given away. This is where my problem and moving is taking a toll on me.

I have tons of things we won't need because we'll have duplicates at the house and quite frankly, I can always purchase them again if and when I needed them. But I don't want to let them go.

I don't have tons of furniture, as our last move caused me to give that away to people living in our complex when I had to abruptly move out of the apartment because of Marc's health and my inability to pay the high cost of rent. As well, having only myself to move these things made it harder to take them and easier to say goodbye when it came to it.

I know that out there somewhere someone needs one or all of these things I have to give away and it could help them. So, I am calling a charity to pick it up on Friday morning and take it away. Still, I am saddened by having to give up these things and mainly, I am saddened by the fact that I am sad about material possessions when my husband's health should be my top concern.

I know I have to give up these things for the greater good of a more smooth transition and move. And with only being 11 days away, I can't be idle about getting these things taken care of.

I am letting go of all these things so I can move on and focus on the most important thing in my life: my husband. But like I said, boy, is it hard to do!

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Hi--I understand the importance of possessions. They represent so much--who we are, what we like, how we live. I understand these objects are merely possessions but I also know they are what we love. It's very difficult to part with what we love. \r\n\r\nGrieve for what you'll give up. It's a loss. \r\n\r\nThinking of you.