Love: The Universal Foreign Language


Love: The Universal Foreign Language

Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, our happiness expert, joined us today for our monthly discussion on how we enhance the happiness in our lives. Today, we talked about understanding how others give and receive love in order to increase our happiness in our relationships. Specifically, we spoke about the five languages. (You can listen to our show via the player at the bottom of this post.)

Dr. Gary Chapman author of The 5 Love Languages describes the love languages on his website as:

  • Words of Affirmation
    If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward.

  • Quality Time
    Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved.

  • Receiving Gifts
    The receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you.

  • Acts of Service
    Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.”

  • Physical Touch
    A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love.

We spoke about the languages as they relate to partners, family members and carees. Learning another's love language can speak volumes in how a relationship transforms. And, if you feel disappointed or unappreciated, it could simply mean you can't hear the love--it's a foreign language to you.

When we better understand another's love language, we better our relationship.

What do you think? How can you use the love languages to enhance your relationships?