Matter

Denise

Matter

Denise
abstract-768131_640Matter, the dictionary says, is something that occupies space. It also is something of consequence.

Caregiving, which matters, occupies a lot of space in our lives. It becomes something of great consequence -- a matter, truly, of life and death.

Caregiving can matter so much that we can feel that it takes over the space once occupied by our relationships, our careers, our free time, our selves. Being a part of something that matters so much can mean we lose touch with what we want and need. As we get lost, we can really start to wonder: Do I matter? Am I of consequence?

The truth of the matter is that you are of grave consequence, in and out of caregiving. You are important during a caregiving situation, outside of a caregiving situation and beyond a caregiving situation. Caregiving may define this moment but you define your life's moments.

I suppose it's all relative -- how we relate to caregiving and how it works in relation to our lives. What matters most is how we use the space we occupy in the world and how we hold that space. Do we resent and become bitter? Or do we allow and become better?

Know you're not lost in space -- you matter too much. Your thoughts and ideas and desires and gifts and talents and goals matter a great deal because they improve your personal space as well as the world's space.

Caregiving is a big deal. And, you are, too.