A Caregiving Comfort: Melt


A Caregiving Comfort: Melt

chocolate-1934_640In caregiving, you focus on protecting your caree. If only you could protect your heart.

So many disappointments pile up during a caregiving experience. Your friends disappear, your family members wipe their hands, health care professionals give you the run-around, you lose chances, your caree's declines seem to happen overnight. With each setback, you feel your heart break off another little piece.

To protect more breaks from happening, you may be tempted to harden your heart. If your heart becomes cold to the day's events, maybe you'll be able to move through difficulties without shedding more tears.

Sure, a hardened heart may make a day easier. But, a closed heart takes away your meaning and your purpose. When your heart stays cold, you miss the opportunity to glow in the tiny miracles of the day that tie you to your purpose. You miss the joke, you miss the connection, you miss the insight.

A cold heart may feel like a great survival strategy. When a cold heart melts, though, you've got a life worth living.


Melt into your difficulties and challenges. You'll also settle into your joy and wisdom.

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Oh, Denise, you seem to hit me on the head every time. Sometimes I wonder if there is any love left after pouring it out into the Stoic abyss! I like the idea of Melt and do melt when Elly says \"Thank You\" or \"That feels better\" or \"That was really a good meal\". I collect those words to crack the bits of hardening that happen on my heart! Thank You!


I'm so glad yo enjoy the comforts, Pegi. And I hope you know you can melt here any time.