Mental Spring Cleaning and My Caregiver Super Hero Mentality

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Mental Spring Cleaning and My Caregiver Super Hero Mentality

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cartoon_spring(Editor's Note: Today, we welcome @angelaholmes to our blogging team.)

It’s Spring! As a caregiver we need to renew and refresh ourselves just like the earth is renewed every spring. This renewal might mean different things to different people depending on the level of care you provide and your available resources. But no matter where you are in your caregiving journey you can use this time to renew your mind and spirit which will lead to a healthier mental state.

I hadn’t realized how stressed I was until last week. I was wondering why everything hurt. My gum line, my neck and head hurt for four days. My sister reminded me that that is where stress manifests itself. Last week I took advantage of her visiting. I walked every morning at my favorite neighborhood park. She gave my mom breakfast and that gave me time to go on my walk. Without taking pain pills or anything after about 10 minutes into my walk my head and neck pain left and I didn’t need any ibuprofen. The loosening of my muscles in my shoulder caused my tension head ache to go away. That was a relief. Spring cleaning for me meant cleaning out a bit of stress every morning .

My sister has gone back home now and I won't have as much help with Mom. I decided I can get up earlier and walk my dogs around the corner.  I can enjoy the spring weather before my caregiving day starts. I also started letting Mom stay out back after breakfast and she enjoys the sun and the flowers instead of her normal scenery of neighbor watching on the front porch.

I also learned that allowing people to help me is okay. I am a fixer and a doer and it is hard for me to accept help. Does that sound familiar to you? For some reason I got into the habit of saying “No, thanks I can do it” and "No, that’s okay."  I am a Caregiver Super Hero who thinks nothing gets done properly unless I do it. I still think that’s true but I will start allowing others to step in every now and then. Hopefully they won't lose my mom or burn the kitchen without me being home. lol

So this spring, stop to smell the roses and don’t deny the helper bees that want to offer you some honey every now and then.

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MissAngie

Hi Peg,\r\nThank You for the welcome. Yes I think after so many years of doing everything I got it in my head that no one can do anything to help my mom but me . My young adult kids help now too. They are in college but they cook breakfast for her before they go to school or work and they even started helping me bathe her .I did have a talk with them a few weeks ago when my sister was here and we told them to help more and they are.

MissAngie

Thank You!

MissAngie

Hi Richard,\r\n\r\nYou are right. I didn't realize how stressed I was until my sister came to visit. I did let her know how much I appreciated her visit.\r\nShe said she had no idea how hard the day to day caring for my mom was until this visit. She kept thanking me for all my years of care to mom.You have a great spring too.

MissAngie

Hi Denise,\r\n\r\nWhen my kids were little they were so adorable. Everyone wanted to house sit and babysit them. So now my mom is in their place. She is fragile and adorable and people from church offer to stay with her so I can run errands,sing more at church and finally finish writing my book on care giving.\r\n\r\nA lot of people offer to cook for me or let me and my husband have a free week end without mom and I just say \"That's Ok\" But now I decided I should take them up on their offers.That's how they will be stepping in.

Denise

Hi,\r\n\r\nYou wrote, \"I will start allowing others to step in every now and then.\"\r\n\r\nI'm just wondering what they can help you with by stepping in.

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