Mom's Falling Apart; Dad's in Denial

Desiree

Mom's Falling Apart; Dad's in Denial

Desiree

avalanche-552114_640Mom's been in a steady decline for about two years now. First a heart attack, then kidney failure, and now it's obvious to me and everyone else, except Dad, that she's got some form of dementia.


My dad insists on doing everything himself, will admit that bringing in outside help is a good idea but he just won't act on it. Mom can't be left alone anymore, not for more than five minutes. She has gone from using a walker to a wheelchair, and her dementia has gone from vivid recollections of events that never happened to violent, angry outbursts. I feel very sad for her -- she was always a very competent and active woman. It has to be terrible for her now.


But it's my dad I really worry about. He seems to irritate her so much these days (rather like the way I always used to) and he's very clearly showing the strain. At the rate things are going, he's going to be the next one having a heart attack or worse.


I am seriously considering calling their PCP, and trying to convince her to have a long-overdue talk with my dad. Because, even though he calls me for advice and help, he won't act on my suggestions. And something has simply got to give.