lemon-squeezer-609273_640In the past, I often wondered when I heard someone lament over lost time when their carees died in the 90s. I would think, "You've been given so much. How can you want more?"

I find myself doing this now. I see a segment about Betty White and wonder why she is given so many healthy years into her 90s when my parents healthy years ended in their 80s. I now understand how we can feel that we didn't get enough, that somehow we got cheated.

I can only imagine how that robbery of the years must feel when your caree is much younger--in her teens or 20s, in his 40s or 50s. It must feel like the thief stole your life. I would think you must question at times how others can have so much more while you're left holding so much less.

I finally realized last week that no matter how much we have, we always want more when it comes to time with our family. When caregiving enters the equation, we can never have too much time no matter how much we've already received.

We want more.

So, because we know the pain of lost time, time we can't have, we find the meaning in the time we have. Maybe others have more but perhaps they squander it. You may not have enough, but you know how to make it matter.

You get it.

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I recall saying to someone that \"We've only been married five years.\" And her reply was that it hurts just as much when you've been together 45 years. It's never enough time.