Nearing the End


Nearing the End

My mom, who has been in hospice in my home for the past eight months with a heart condition, has gone downhill rapidly in the past few days.

I don't think we have more than a few days left with her. Due to her stroke 11 years ago, she hasn't been able to talk much for a long time, and now she can barely say a whispered "yes" or "no", and is taking only a few sips of liquid a day, and is really heavily medicated for pain.

I've been saying goodbye to the mom I knew growing up for so long, but this is still hard. I know she's ready to go, and has been since my dad passed 10 months ago, if not before. But watching it happen, despite the amazing support we have from the hospice folks, is really draining.

Yesterday we had a visit from the hospice chaplain, whom my mom has gotten to know and really likes; he's been wonderful with her. After visiting with her, he said something to me like "you're doing a good job", and I must have looked at him like I wasn't sure, because he took my hands and said it again. It meant a lot, I almost burst into tears. I guess I haven't really believed that, up till now.

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You were so right on your reply to my post, yes we are in the same boat. You are doing a great job and I know your mom appreciates all you are doing for her, just as my dad appreciates what I am doing for him. We will not regret giving our love and time to them. I'm here if you want to talk about this.


Yes, you are doing a good job! Thinking of you today, and know you are supported with understanding.


I'm so grateful you keep us posted, Cowislandmom.\r\n\r\nAnd, what a blessing the chaplain gave you. You're giving your mom enough care, enough love, enough. It's a gift to know you are enough.\r\n\r\nUpdate us as you can. Know our support surrounds you.