water-464953_640We can stomach so much during a caregiving day.

Except when we receive those looks of pity. It can happen at the grocery store, in the Target parking lot, even at the doctor's office.

The pitiful looks are awful.

We don't want to pitied.

Except of course when we throw ourselves a pity party.

It's one of the ironies of caregiving. We hate to be pitied but we sometimes just love to take center stage in a pity party. Before we know it, though, we've lost our pity party audience and stand alone on a stage that gets darker and darker by the minute.

What to do about the pitiful looks and pitiful parties?

We can turn them into our opportunities.

We can end those looks that look like pity with a smile. We aren't to be pitied but rather understood. Our lives are good. We can smile because we're living a meaningful, purposeful life.

We can end our pity parties by telling our truths about what really hurts. Pity parties feel so good in the short term but keep us isolated from help in the long term. Staying too long in a pity party pulls the curtain down on our life. When we face the truth about what hurts, we can receive healing support and comfort to move forward and we can make the best of our life.

We have the tools to turn pity into our personal power.

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Lillie Fuller

Oh I enjoy a good pity party every now and then! I'm proud to mention that they come way less often than they used to. I have so very much to be thankful for and the things I usually get in a funk about are things like, not being able to go see a movie, or not being able to have dinner out with friends. I am truly blessed to have this site and to have friends here that understand my \"pity parties\", they understand my caregiving role.