Update: I Am Staying in Business (Phew!)


Update: I Am Staying in Business (Phew!)

(Update: We got acquired!! And, that means we stay together as a community. Thanks so much for everyone for all your help and support to make this happen.)

sun-55518_640Unfortunately, I have run out of money.

I actually ran out of money about three years ago and have been hanging on by my fingernails since then. On March 3, I went into negative territory (I'm overdrawn in both my business and personal checking accounts) with more bills due now and on April 1.

Because of my inability to make money, I have to go out of business which means I have to shut down Caregiving.com and AfterGiving.com.

The money struggle has followed me since I started my business 20 years ago this month. I launched my first product to help family caregivers (Caregiving!, a monthly newsletter) in January 1995. I built a basic website in 1996 and debuted Caregiving.com in the fall of that year. Soon after, I added online support groups so family caregivers could connect and share with others in a similar situation at any time of the day and night. I continued to add refine and add products and services which I hoped would help.

I've flirted with going out of my business more times than I can count. I've worked other full-time and part-time jobs to keep going. For 12 of the past 20 years, I've lived with my parents so I could keep my business going. I had to move back home in 2012. I long for my own address.

I am working to dig myself out of this hole and will continue to look for full-time work. I do have a part-time babysitting job for which I am very grateful.

Through last nigh, I continued to think of events, new products and new services I could add or tweak which would bring in money. I did my best to keep the faith, to stay positive and to believe I could do it. It simply was not meant to be. This morning, I decided I needed to honestly address my situation and simply shut down.

So, the last day the websites will be up is March 31. Please feel free to use the websites as much as you would like before then. Our final event will be our Virtual Caregiving Conference, which will happen March 30. I will continue to share stories in our Hire a Family Caregiver campaign through next Monday. And, if you like the idea of wearing green because you care on April 11, please go for it and share your photos on your social networks.

Over the years, @Trish @G-J @Kreisler @Kathy @jo @rainbow @Jbones1961 and @ejourneys have sent me money to keep me going. Thank you so much for your help. I am so gratitude for your kindness and generosity. I also want to wish @ejourneys good health in abundance.

I'm grateful for the help from our wonderful volunteers: @oscargal @jbones1961 @Trish @G-J @Kreisler and @worriedwife.

Thanks so much for NorthShore Care Supply, which has been a generous supporter of Caregiving.com over the years.

If you are a member of Caregiving.com, you also received a separate email from me.

I did love doing this. I appreciate everyone who stopped by the website over the years. Thank you all so much.

If you are interested in purchasing the domain name, Caregiving.com, please feel free to email me at caregivingyears1@gmail.com. Beginning April 1, you can reach me at caregivingyears1@gmail.com.

Finally, you have so many options and choices today to receive support as you care. Please feel free to share other websites and resources you recommend in the comments section, below.

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Hi Gail--I know it's tough to schedule coaching sessions given the intensity of your caregiving day. I'm so grateful for all your support and help.\r\n\r\nI hope the announcement of this morning (we're continuing!) wipes away your worries. And, AfterGiving.com continues, too. Phew! :)

Jo Rozier

Denise, I like many others immediately assumed your account had been hacked when I read your email. And like them I jumped on your only to have the painful realization that this was indeed happening.\r\n\r\nMy next reaction was misery because I was overwhelmed with a sense that I had failed you. I racked my brain for what else could I have done and because I have a good imagination I came up with all sorts of should'ves/could'ves.... Probably not fair to either you or I but you know me, I'm an honest bloke.\r\n\r\nFinally perspective prevailed. This wasn't after all about me. If I felt this bad imagine how you felt. \r\n\r\nI know this was always much more than a business to you, it was a calling, a life mission. \r\n\r\nPlease know that you have not failed in that mission. Take away from the many comments_mysql and expressions of our love that...\r\n\r\nYou are and always will be a Caregiver to Caregivers. \r\n\r\nYou didn't become one because of a website and the closure of one doesn't change your status or the stature with which you are beheld. \r\n\r\nWe'll just call this episode a Commencement for lack of better term. As one person has commented, one chapter is ending but another is immediately beginning.


Hi--I actually did try this three times last year with very little success, which is why I didn't try it again. A good idea, though!!


(I posted this early yesterday morning, but it seems not to have taken. Trying again.)\r\n\r\nDenise, I know you have struggled with this for quite a while and have given it everything that you could give. As painful as lessons are, they are also valuable. They will serve you well going forward. As Kathy has said, you have created a family here, for which I am immensely grateful. As EG and Pegi have said, you need your own life. That is instrumental to your own healing and balance. I have called this site a sanity-saver — it provided me with the validation I dearly needed and terrific friendships with people I am honored to know. In addition to those you have acknowledged, I would like to publicly thank Bette Scott — I remember the labors she and her family put in for years, including a bake sale on behalf of the site.\r\n\r\nThank you also for your good wishes for me — I am just a few hours away from surgery [am back home now]. Being a caregiver and advocate for my partner has prepared me well for this new adventure.\r\n\r\nThis is not the end. This is only Act I. You have set in motion and nurtured something marvelous. We move on, but we do so with newfound strength and resilience because we remain a community. As G-J and Jane have said, you have made a difference in the world. May all caregivers be so blessed, from simple acceptance without judgment of our shared perspectives and challenges. Truly, we have strength in numbers and camaraderie. Thank you again, and I wish you all the best of luck.

RoaringMouse 2.0

<a href='http://www.m40.siteground.biz/~caregiv6/members/gail/' rel=\"nofollow\">@Gail</a> Kroll...I am an Aftergiver too! Please feel free to connect @educateandadvocate@gmail.com. Would love a buddy in the process. RM

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