Podcast: Learning To Say Good-Bye

Lynette Whiteman

Podcast: Learning To Say Good-Bye

Lynette Whiteman
I did not have the luxury of saying good-bye to my dad.  He was brought to the emergency room and within 1/2 hour was intubated because of pneumonia.  Two weeks later, he was taken off the ventilator after it became clear that he was never going to breathe by himself any longer.  He would not have wanted to be kept alive by machines with no quality of life.

There was so much I would have wanted to say to him if I had the chance.  I would have wanted to thank him for allowing me the freedom to make mistakes and know that's the only way I'll learn.  I would have wanted to thank him for showing me that kindness to others is what matters in life and whenever there is a chance to show kindness, grasp it.  I would have wanted to thank him for being my safety net and knowing that I would never fall too far without him being there to boost me up.

Most importantly, I would have wanted to tell him how much I loved him and his legacy will live on in me and my children.

For those of us who are caring for someone at the end of their life, talking about death can be awkward, scary and something we want to avoid at all costs.  However, learning to navigate this time in our journeys can help us avoid guilt later on, deepen our relationship with the person we're caring for and ease their fears as well.

I had a really lovely conversation with Katie Chambers who is an End of Life Doula working with Holisticare Hospice.  Katie offers very helpful insight and guidance for caregivers that I hope you will find helpful and comforting.

Listen to "Learning To Say Good-Bye" on Spreaker.

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