Railroading Into "Sundowning"

West Easton Railroad Bridge West Easton Railroad Bridge (Photo credit: robotbrainz)

Lately I've been exposed to the formal term of sundowning, so I'm sure I'm not alone in wondering what the heck is going on with my parents at about 4 o'clock in the afternoon.  At that time, my father becomes unbelievably agitated toward my mom and she to him, or she takes what I've seen as abuse, or I hear from my father that I'm imagining something that I know he said. He is adamant that I don't take care of them, but I do.

During the day he is wonderful, but these "mood shocks" (a.k.a. trauma to me ) are so hard to see coming, if at all.  I wonder if sundowning applies to the morning as well, when Dad screams at Mom that the bed is wet and she screams back that she didn't do it, and the swearing continues.  I can't keep leaving the house for my sanity when this happens or I'll really burn out and take things personally.  So I wonder how to make a schedule around this sundowning :) and follow self-help guidelines. With that I'm going to go have my coffee time.

Huh, this pic of the Swans just appeared. Check out the title! Always, il.

Embarrassing parents - swan duckling Embarrassing parents - swan duckling (Photo credit: @Doug88888)


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