Reflections on My Son Getting Married
Lynette Whiteman
Reflections on My Son Getting Married
Lynette Whiteman

The one missing link is that none of my son's grandparents are going to be present to witness and share this special day. My husband's parents have both passed away, my dad passed away in 2011 and my mother is too far into dementia to be able to handle the journey and all the upheaval. I know they will be there in spirit, but I also will miss seeing the look on their faces as they see the little boy they had such a hand in raising take this enormous step in his life.
I guess it's milestones like this that make us take a step back and appreciate what we have in our lives but also remind us of losses we have experienced. As the caregiver for my father before he died, and now for my mother, I have grown used to being in the role of their parent for a long time. But that doesn't make it easier, or take away the sadness or loss.
My goals for the day are to be as present as possible and appreciate all the love that will be in the room. I will take some time to talk to my dad so he knows that I know he is there. I will come home and show my mother the pictures and know somewhere deep down she will be happy. I will thank all the grandparents for being a part of my son's life and loving him unconditionally.
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