Reflections on My Son Getting Married

Lynette Whiteman

Reflections on My Son Getting Married

Lynette Whiteman
In 22 days I am entering a new phase in my life. I am officially going to be someone's mother-in-law for the first time when my oldest son gets married. This is such a joyous time for my family and and aside from the stress of shopping for a dress that fits and finding shoes that won't kill me after an hour, it's been smooth sailing.

The one missing link is that none of my son's grandparents are going to be present to witness and share this special day. My husband's parents have both passed away, my dad passed away in 2011 and my mother is too far into dementia to be able to handle the journey and all the upheaval. I know they will be there in spirit, but I also will miss seeing the look on their faces as they see the little boy they had such a hand in raising take this enormous step in his life.

I guess it's milestones like this that make us take a step back and appreciate what we have in our lives but also remind us of losses we have experienced. As the caregiver for my father before he died, and now for my mother, I have grown used to being in the role of their parent for a long time. But that doesn't make it easier, or take away the sadness or loss.

My goals for the day are to be as present as possible and appreciate all the love that will be in the room. I will take some time to talk to my dad so he knows that I know he is there. I will come home and show my mother the pictures and know somewhere deep down she will be happy. I will thank all the grandparents for being a part of my son's life and loving him unconditionally.

 

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Lynette Whiteman

Thank you Cathy - I talk to my dad asking about help with my mom too. Once I was in a really stressful situation at work and I made believe someone was in the chair next to me by putting something on it so no one would sit there. Actually, I was saving it for my dad and it comforted me to know he was sitting there in spirit at least. Lynette