Repeat After Me: I Have A Plan...


Repeat After Me: I Have A Plan...

vintage-345311_640Yes, I have a plan. We ALL need a plan, or I feel we do. Without a plan or some type of organization I think I'd go bonkers.

Oh yeah, you know I have those days. Just read my previous posts. So, what's my plan? Well what works for me may not work for you.

My plan includes two things:

1: Take care of Dad. That's top priority, can't be put on the back burner.

2: Still have time for me.

Easier said than done? Sure it is. But it can be done in a number of ways. While a nice escape to the coast for a few days would be nice, ummm, that doesn't seem to be in the picture. So, I try and schedule one activity a month with my girlfriends. Last month it was a wine festival. A fun day with just the girls, lots of fun. Next month is another trip to a winery to celebrate all of our birthdays together. You get the picture, mine just happens to include wine. Ha, I love the culture and the fun among friends and no, I don't get to partake very often around the house. But a late night/early morning glass sometimes can be a really nice  way to end a day of caregiving.

I am so fortunate that Dad is at a place in this journey that he's doing quite well. Other than basic needs, assistance with mobility and supervision - he is so good! Oh we've had our moments, and maybe it's because we've been at this for awhile, but I have finally been able to feel I can relax a little bit. In the past I've been so stressed, to the point I've been physically ill.

I've found solace in small moments of gardening, visits with customers (of my Avon business), dreaded trips (getting better though) to Wally World,  and soon I'll be back in school. I'm going to finish and get my degree if it kills me! I received word I have full funding and while I can get this help, I need to use some of my "time for me" in class.

I know it's really hard sometimes to take time. Sometimes you aren't able to do much of anything for "you" due to the health of your caree. But you can read a few chapters in a favorite book, enjoy a nice cup of tea or coffee, or take a hot bath.

Other people have told me they would help me make time for me. Well that didn't really happen because we all know that a lot of time they are the ones that don't follow through. You have to be the one to make the time because it's for you. You do what YOU want because it's what YOU will enjoy. Get it?

Do I seem preachy? I hope not, even though it is 2:30 am, my caregiving friends are on my mind. I think of you all constantly and while I face my own issues, they are minimal to what some of you face. Coming on the website and seeing what all is going on in your lives is part of my day.

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Hi Lisa! It sounds like you and I are in the same situation. I also care for my father, and my mother passed away about 2 years ago. I know how important it is to find the time for your self. Having a plan and goals is crucial for you own survival. I too, managed to finish school, started my own website just recently, survive my mother's death and continue to care for my father and help out with my two grandchildren. I guess that is why they call us the sandwich generation. We are the ones in the middle that have to hold up both ends. I am so glad that you have found peace and figured out a way to still be true to yourself! God bless you and your family!!