Should I Add Secretary to My List!!!

Shirley

Should I Add Secretary to My List!!!

Shirley
telephone-310544_640Last week my husband's grown son called about four times and left messages. Every time he called we were either at therapy or napping. I told my husband his son called; I was really feeling bad that my husband didn't call him back after four calls. I sent his son a text to tell him his father said that he would call the next day. He replied "We will see."

His son wants me to dial the phone and put the phone in his hand. He also badgers his father every time he calls telling him he should call his other two grown children and seven grown grandchildren who have not been in our lives since he became ill. He tells him he should call one everyday until they pick up the phone!! I guess he wants me to dial their numbers and hand the phone to my husband.

My husband is very capable of calling whoever he wants even though he has a little dementia. I don't feel as though I should be his secretary--I have enough on my plate. I know it would only take less then a minute, I feel my husband should make his own calls if he wants to talk on the phone. His family have not been very caring or respectful for almost 16 months I guess I have a attitude about them.

I was going to send his son this message.

I gave your father the messages and reminded him several times. I'm sorry, but I have my own problems. This week Monday I have to take him to has pulmonary and physical therapy 50 miles round trip. I have to go to for cataract surgery on Tuesday. On Wednesday I go back to the eye doctor for a check-up and I have an appointment with a cardiologist to have a heart monitor put on for 24 hours. On Thursday, my husband has pulmonary and physical therapy again. This week he is only going to therapy twice since I need to take care of my health too. Friday I have to go to my dermatologist and back to the cardiologist to return the monitor. Plus starting today I have to start a regiment of three types of eye drops with a very stringent schedule. I have to also food shop on Monday because I'm not suppose to lift anything heavy for a week or two. And I still take care of everything else--cleaning, cooking and all of my husband's needs. I think my plate is full !! I don't have the time or the energy to worry about if my husband returns calls or doesn't. At this point frankly I don't care. I don't need this stress. Plus on July 5 we had a power outage while trying to care for my husband. I fell and I'm still dealing with a sore back and neck and sprained wrist. So please don't add secretary to my already busy schedule!!

Needing to vent!!
Shirley

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