Support System Failure

Desiree

Support System Failure

Desiree
pieces-of-the-puzzle-592798_640Or, Houston, we have a problem.

The episode with my daughter's graduation is only the most recent scheduling conflict between my being Grandma's live-in caregiver and Dad's go-to person for help with Mom. It wouldn't be an issue were I not already on duty 24/7  for Grandma. But I have not yet learned the secret of bi-location,  can only "clone" certain house plants, not myself, and I'm fairly sure no long lost twin is out there waiting to be discovered.

I feel awful for my parents, especially Dad. I truly wish I could be in two places at once, that I could be of more help. But I am in an untenable position myself now. And nobody here seems to get it, except for my husband.

I have NO support system of my own to fall back on when I am ill or have something I absolutely have to get done. The few friends Grandma has left are old, frail, and helpless themselves. They can't step in -- a couple have broadly hinted that they'd like to borrow me!

But I am apparently Dad's support system, his only one. And the pressure of that is really starting to get to me. He knows this, all of it. I've told him, quite clearly. It doesn't seem to be sinking in.

God help all these people if I should get seriously ill or get hurt in a car wreck. What would happen then? It doesn't bear thinking about.