Take a Breath


Take a Breath

wisp-cloud-346518_640Caregiving wouldn't be so bad if I could just catch a decent breath. Truly, when you have pulmonary problems it feels like you are running in a marathon all day. I can barely manage to keep up with all that needs to be done around here, despite getting outside help on occasion.

I know my husband has his own issues. He does have a lot more pain than I do. But seriously, it's just as hard for me to walk across the room to wait on him as it is for him to do it himself. And it just seems like he's asking more these days. Either that or I'm just noticing it more, and putting my foot down. After all, he needs the exercise as much or more than I do!

With dementia, I can expect his ability to care for himself will get worse, not better. But my oxygen needs don't seem to be getting any better either. It's a toss-up to see whose body will wear out first. My only daughter, 33 with her own family now, is counting on me to hold up. She loves her dad, but his care is pretty complicated, and he's not the most cooperative to work with at times.

Anyway, it feels good to get this off my chest. Unfortunately it wasn't enough to make me breathe better. I need a whole new chest cavity that isn't deformed from scoliosis to have that happen. The first thing I'm going to do when I get to heaven is take a deep breath. Heaven knows, it will be my first!

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God bless you, Teresa.


Teresa, it's hard enough being a caregiver even if in the best of health. To keep showing up in the midst of your own physical challenges is a major accomplishment. You sound like a courageous woman. You are putting one foot in front of the other as best you can. It's great you sometimes have outside help. Would it be possible to get it more frequently? Or to have regular help in certain areas that would ease things for you a bit? ... All we can do is the best we can do at that moment. I hope you can let the rest of it go; find respite in knowing it's good enough. Take good care of you. And know that we care. I'm sending well wishes and strengthening vibes. May you be surrounded by peace and calm. Keep us posted.


So Sry to hear your have this kind of challenge to deal with. It can be so hard caring for your DH when you are dealing with your own illness. Hang in there, this site is a great place for support.\r\nI care & I'm adding you to my prayer list also.


Oh, Teresa, I can't even imagine.\r\n\r\nI think it's often overlooked at how much family caregivers do, even as they manage both short-term illnesses (like the flu) and long-term chronic illnesses. You just have to keep going even as you feel the pain of going.\r\n\r\nI'm glad it felt a little better to vent. And, good for you for putting your foot down!!