Tell Us: Have You Unfriended?

Denise
thumb-440352_640This morning, I happened onto Facebook. I don't spend a lot of time on Facebook because it feels a little too self-involved to me. People really love to talk about themselves.

But, hop onto Facebook I did as soon as I poured my first cup of coffee. And, then I immediately regretted it. Sibling and her husband posted photos of their terrific day yesterday, which began with a bike ride and ended with a delightful dinner along Lake Michigan. It was a beautiful day yesterday.

Usually, photos and stories of someone else's great day don't bother me. But, as Sibling and her spouse rode their bikes, and relished the gorgeous weather and relaxed along the lake, I was moving our parents. I got up early to do last minute-packing before the movers arrived; made sure my sister, brother and sister-in-law had coffee and a coffeecake to enjoy while we worked; answered thousands of questions from the movers and my siblings about what to take, where to put that and then this, and how to get that to fit into this.

At these moments, I'm tempted to comment on a photo shared by Sibling or her husband which sounds something like this:

"Looks like you two had a fantastic day! I guess you were having too much fun to call and check on Mom and Dad, who moved into independent living yesterday. It also seems like you were too involved in yourselves to offer to help. But, no worries! I did it--I got your parents moved and settled. Enjoy the rest of the weekend!!"

The temptation is so great to leave such a comment that I think I need to unfriend my sibling and her spouse.

Which makes me wonder: Have you unfriended a family member or friend because of their insensitivity to your caregiving responsibilities? Or because you couldn't stand to see their shallow posts while you're doing all the heavy lifting?

Tell us in our comments section, below.

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