Tell Us: How Do You Cope with Your Caree's Depression?

Denise

Tell Us: How Do You Cope with Your Caree's Depression?

Denise
depression-242024_640One of our newest members who cares for her husband shared an update last night. Her update included this question:
He is so depressed, he barely talks. How do you deal with this depression in addition to the illness itself? Any suggestions?

A caree’s depression can create such a helpless feeling. You do all that you can to help and sometimes you feel like you can't do anything to help. It's awful to watch another struggle with depression and can often contribute to your own depression.

How do you cope with your caree's depression? What has worked for you? What suggestions can you offer? Tell us about your experiences in our comments, below.

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Debbie

Patty- That is the best idea I have heard. Attitude probably saves as many lives as the medicine. And he could not argue with a piece of paper! Am glad he is improving with his new determination. I will try some version of that with my husband. Am happy to report that he is a bit more human tonite after a visit to the psychiatrist yesterday. (no new meds, just more hope). Thanks for taking the time to share. Good luck in your journey.

Debbie

Richard, thanks for your thoughts and suggestions. I take him to all his appointments, and stay here all the time in case he needs something. Hard to know what he needs, tho, as he has decided not to talk. He does get up for his midday meal, and otherwise has snacks and ensure. With his ejection fraction so low (15 to 20% last month), am not sure what is normal for such a patient? Maybe sleeping all the time is all his heart will allow. Has anyone else dealt with a heart patient? It seems like all the medical advise was to get up and make the most of what you have, but maybe he just doesn't have anything to give?

Debbie

Jan - your post from 8/17 is quite helpful. He is already on Prozac (60mg), and Xanex (.50 mg) - as required, which seems to be a LOT. We cannot get into see a psychiatrist til 9/4 (tho am hoping for a cancellation for sooner). This is all very weird, as I am the one who has struggled with depression all these years. Now, of course, have to keep it together to keep track of all that is happening and be strong. Even in the depths of my depression, never stayed in bed 24/7 with the lights out, no TV, no music. But I did not have a heart ejection fraction of 15-20%, so how much is it his condition, or should I be annoying him to Get Up and Try.? Am pulled in two directions.

jan

My mom started getting so angry. She's this little tiny thing and she was never angry (like this) before the dementia. One night she acted like she was going to hit me. It freaked me out. I took her to the geriatric specialist we've been seeing. He said depression acts like anger, and put her on an evening dose of celexa (citalopram) 10mg a day. What a difference it made. Not exactly answering the question (the answer isn't always DRUGS) but an insight about dementia and depression I didn't know.