Tell Us: What (or Who) Do You Resent?


Tell Us: What (or Who) Do You Resent?

I think we do our best to forgive knowing that bitterness can make a difficult time, like caregiving, even harder.

We are human, though, and resentments crop up.

I'd love to know: What do you resent? Who can bring up resentments for you? And, when do you feel the resentments creep in?

Share your thoughts and experiences in our comments section, below.

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I think the caregiving journey has helped me overcome resentments. I had a lot of unhealed resentment and anger towards my mother for things she said and did throughout my entire life. Being her primary caregiver was so hard at first as it stirred up a lot of unhealed emotional wounds that I didn’t even know I was carrying. \r\nI was resentful that my three siblings chose not to help because they didn’t want to face their own unhealed wounds. \r\n\r\nLittle did I know that facing and dealing with these unhealed wounds would be such a catherasis for the soul. I have been able to overcome this, forgive her, and forgive myself for being to hard on myself. \r\n\r\nMy siblings are missing out on a healing/forgiveness opportunity.


I try so hard not to resent anything, regarding me... to tell myself that this is what I'm supposed to be doing at this point of my life... in a way, almost being grateful for the opportunity to serve. And for the most part I'm fine with that... but it hurts to see my wife deteriorate (almost daily) from such a horrific disease. That's what's difficult for me to come to terms with, to understand \"why her?\". That hurts, and resentment does creep in... along with anger and frustration, and sometimes despair. I have to believe there is a reason for everything that's happened to us these past two years, I just don't understand what it is yet.


I resent the disease for robbing my mom of her independence. I resent the disease for stealing time from myself, my husband and my mom. I resent my sisters when I am tired and in need of support and they don't think about me or say they need some time off because they are tired/busy, etc. I resent when my family goes out for a meal or invites each other over dinner, but don't include us because it is too hard on mom. Today, I am tired so I am just resenting....but mostly I am grateful that I have this time with mom and that we get to share a special trust and love and moments. I am grateful for a husband who loves my mom and this situation unconditionally and gives us both a safety and security in this challenging times.