Tell Us: What’s Today’s Caregiving Stress? (Day 4)


Tell Us: What’s Today’s Caregiving Stress? (Day 4)

struggling-with-stress_364x200_98059549As you may know, I’ve been collecting data about your caregiving stress, the overlooked epidemic in our communities. During a webinar on June 22 at Noon ET, I’ll share the current results of our ongoing survey and share thoughts about what’s needed to minimize the stress. (Register for a reminder to attend The Family Caregiver’s Stress and to receive a link to the archive.)

We know that caregiving stress can be ongoing. I also believe that caregiver stress is constantly changing, that what stresses you on Monday is replaced by a different stressful situation on Tuesday. To show the constant and changing face of caregiving stress, I’d love for you to tell us about each day’s caregiving stress over a period of five days. Your stories about your day’s caregiving stress will make our data about your caregiving stress that much more compelling.

In our comments section, below, tell us about the stress you’re feeling today.

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To catch up on yesterday: One of the top stresses was my, at first, subconscious reaction to the holiday - remembering family of origin celebrations and feeling the contrast to now. I realized what was happening only when I quickly put together a homemade baked bean dish to take to my son's house. I grabbed a spice from the the cupboard, swiftly twisted the cap open with the cluster of connected measuring spoons still in my hand. The little jar slipped and I caught it, lid completely off, jar wide open without a sifting cap, upside down against my red sweater. It poured out freely, a nice thick dusting of dry mustard into the fibers of the woven top, a full stripe down my front. The old adage, \"Haste makes waste,\" came to mind. With one rip I tore off a paper towel and threw it over the pile of yellow powder on the floor. I'd deal with it later. Then returned to finishing my dish; two teaspoons dry mustard - there was enough left. ... To return to the specific stress: I suppose it was rising tension as I prepared traditional family bbq food, hurrying to get to someone else's house, to be with someone else's relatives; unacknowledged sadness at the change, and a need to readjust my thinking to return to a state of gratitude.


Today, a weekend day when I have no meetings scheduled outside the house, feels especially lonely, both of us in the house, yet in our separate corners; I'm feeling responsible for the quality of our relationship and guilty for not trying harder to make quality time together. I'm hard on myself for needing a lot of \"downtime\" to compensate for a very busy, stress-filled week (lots and lots of phone calls to get information needed in making significant financial decisions), missing caring companionship.


Today hubby keeps calling me from the next room. When I go in, he asks me to put him over on his side. I remind him that I can't do it. I injured my left shoulder a few months ago doing it. I have been told by our doctor, nurse and two physical therapists not to do it. (One was kind enough to add \" At your age, you shouldn't be doing it\") Finally, I am at my wit's end I go in and say, as I grab hold of the pull sheet, \"Ok, I'll turn you\", to which he answers \"No, you can't. You'll hurt your shoulder\"

Lillie Fuller

Today's stress was trying to find a substitute breakfast meal for my mom. She hasn't been able to eat her \"usual\" for about a week now. Finding something to take it's place is not an easy thing.


Stress today is having to handle all the day to day business at home by myself.

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