Tell Us: When Do You Hate the Caregiving Experience?

Denise

Tell Us: When Do You Hate the Caregiving Experience?

Denise
angers-427830_640Recently, a visitor to the site posted this comment on one of my Ask Denise columns ("I Hate This"):

"My mother was the most active 86 yr old you ever saw. One day she tried to move a piece of furniture. She hurt her back, which led to an unbelievable chain of events. Hospitals, ER, nursing homes. It’s a nightmare. The bad happenings keep coming. She is at home with me, has a visiting RN. I absolutely hate being a caregiver. My life is on indefinite hold. This a year after I retired and looked forward to so many things, including activities with Mother. And I resent folks who comment, 'Good thing you retired when you did, so you can take care of Mother.' I’d scrub floors if that would have spared Mother (and me) this hell."

I wonder: When do you hate the caregiving experience? When do you have moments when you just can't think of anything other than, "I hate this!" So much happens that makes the day difficult -- the family dysfunction, the health care red tape, the tight budget, the need for more patience than you can buy, the constant and continual decline. It's understandable that you would feel intensely toward caregiving. Maybe it's not every day and maybe it's only happened a few times. Perhaps it happens more than you'd like to admit.

In our comments section, below, tell us when you just hate this experience called caregiving.

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