Why Is It Uncomfortable to Talk About Death?

Amy

Why Is It Uncomfortable to Talk About Death?

Amy
IMG_5913Recently a friend of mine lost her dad. Like me, she was a caregiver. She is now a member of the "adult orphan club."

After exchanging some emails with her, I got to thinking. Why is it so many people are afraid to talk about death? Is it we are afraid? Afraid of the unknown? So final? I find people just seem to put off talking about it. I remember when both my parents were sick and they started to talk to me about their wishes, I too brushed it off.

It is something we should talk about and not be afraid to talk about. My friend has started running "Death Cafe's" which at first I thought was a horrible name. But now, not so much. In fact I am thinking about starting to run one myself. Not just for caregivers, but for anyone.

A Death Cafe is group-directed discussion of death with no agenda, objectives or themes. It is a discussion group rather than a grief support or counseling session. When I was caring for both my parents and they were in the end stages of their life here on earth, I was so focused on their needs, I did not have time to deal with my feelings on death. Then when they were gone, it was like the wind had been knocked out of me. Maybe if I had attended a death cafe it would of helped. I don't know.

Death is not an end. To me, it's a beginning of a new chapter. True, it's an end for a persons walk here on earth. We will always miss our loved ones who have passed and moved on, but for me, my faith tells me I will see them again some day. That is what gets me through the holidays, birthdays, anniversary's, family gatherings etc.

What are your thoughts and are you comfortable talking about death?