Hi--A home health aide can help with personal care, light housekeeping, meal prep and transportation (like to the doctor's office). You could hire a home health aide a few days a week to give you a break.\r\n\r\nWhat do you think?

Hi--The good news is that she'll accept the help. \r\n\r\nI don't think you are over-thinking. I think you are thinking it through--a big, important difference. \r\n\r\nIf she had transportation to a doctor's appointment, would you be able to have a phone call with the doctor before and after the appointment? Perhaps phone conversations would make this kind of help seem possible. \r\n\r\nI also would ask the ACS how other family members use the service and still make sure they have a voice during the appointment. Talk out your concerns with the ACS staff and see what suggestions they have for you.\r\n\r\nWould you feel comfortable talking to her doctor and following up with ACS to see if this service would work for you? \r\n\r\nIf you decide it doesn't (and it may not), we'll keep brainstorming ideas.

Hi L'Tanya--I feel your pain. It's incredibly frustrating to fight for your life.\r\n\r\nWhen you tell your mom that you need help in order to continue helping her, how does she respond?