What Do You Do When Your Caree Won't?

Denise

What Do You Do When Your Caree Won't?

Denise
wall-328628_640Last week, I presented at a conference for family caregivers in Oklahoma City. During my second presentation ("I'm Toast! Tips to Heal from Caregiving's Difficult Emotions"), an attendee posed a question:

My caree won't follow doctor's orders on diet and exercise. What do I do?


Her frustration was such that she expressed anger and then sadness about the situation. She invites him to join her on her morning walks, she prepares healthy meals, she encourages him and expresses her love for him. And, yet, his decisions compromise his health.

This afternoon, one of our members shared a similar situation.

My hubby is getting worse and worse about not trying to do anything. All he wants to do is sleep. He will do what PT tells him to while she is here but doesn’t continue.


You do so much and, yet, you can feel like the situation is sinking fast because of your caree's inaction. It's frustrating, exasperating, worrisome, demoralizing and heart-breaking.

So, I'd love to know: How did you manage when your caree wouldn't follow doctor's orders or a treatment regime? What did you do to cope? What did you try that worked? That didn't?

Please share your experiences in our comments section, below.

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