What the Decline Looks Like

LilMagill

What the Decline Looks Like

LilMagill
In the aftermath of The Car Key Trauma, things are not the same as they were before. She still has anger and resentment toward me, and her overall mood is low. She doesn't smile at me when I go downstairs and greet her in the mornings. But when I give her a hug and tell her I love her, she still responds in a positive way. She's talking to me again, which is positive. But I miss the warmth and humor of our pre-keys interactions. I've been kicking myself for going about it the way I did, directly instead of through subterfuge. I worry that our relationship has lost something we won't recover.

I wanted to describe the decline that I've noticed over the past couple of months. Maybe? I'm not sure about the time frame. These are some of the changes:

  • She has forgotten that some family members have died. And she keeps forgetting after I tell her.

  • She is losing the order of events over the past 10 to 20 years, not remembering how long she has lived in this city or this house, thinking that she used to drive from my childhood home, 1.5 hours away, to see her doctor here.

  • Her short-term memory at times seems non-existent -- repeated questions are much more frequent than they used to be.

  • She often goes a week without changing her outer clothes, though she still does change her underwear. If we're going out, sometimes I lay out a new outfit for her on the bed, and she puts it on automatically, never realizing I did it.


I wonder if this is a new plateau, if we can stay her awhile before it gets worse. My son has a school trip coming up and a week-long camp this summer, and I dread the thought of managing without him.