What To Do?


What To Do?

pillows-820149_640What do you do when you don't know what to do? Does anyone have an answer for this? I sure wish I did.

The last couple of days my mom has been in a fog. Her usual pattern is that she lays in bed until I bring in the morning paper, about 7:30 a.m., and she reads the paper while I fix her breakfast. She usually eats between 8 a.m. and 8:30 a.m. After she eats she finishes reading the paper then she naps and reads until about Noon.

My mom and I sleep in the same room. Wednesday morning I woke up about 6 and noticed my mom wasn't in bed, so my first thought is she is in the bathroom. I lay there for awhile waiting for her to come out of the bathroom. After about five minutes and her not coming out I get up to go see if she's okay in there and the bathroom door is wide open, she isn't in there! This was completely out of the norm! I look in the living room and there she is sleeping in her chair. I went and of course woke her up. I asked if she was okay, she said yes. I asked if she needed anything; she said no. I asked what was wrong with her bed, she said nothing was wrong with it. Again I asked if she felt okay or had any pain. She said no. So of course I have no clue what's going on. All the questions were answered with her eyes closed, she wouldn't look at me.

I was supposed to run some errands that day and decided I couldn't do it. She says nothing is wrong but I didn't want to leave her. She asked why I wasn't going as I had mentioned the evening before that I needed to do some things. I told her I just didn't feel like going that I was going to wait until "tomorrow".  She humffed at me and told me to go ahead and go. I didn't. All day my mom slept in the chair. She didn't watch her recorded programs from the previous night, "Jeopardy" and "Wheel of Fortune," she just sat in the chair, slept and pretty much ignored me. She ate well, nothing wrong with her appetite. I asked if she was upset with me about anything she said no. About 6 in the evening she went to her room and went about her usual evening program.

Thursday morning, same thing.  I wake up to find my mom in her chair in the living room. Again we went through the question and answer deal, nothing was wrong, she felt okay, she didn't need anything, she wasn't mad. I decided again that I wouldn't take care of those errands I needed to do. I did work in the yard some spent some time outside playing with the dogs and cleaning the yard up. I came in and she had the TV on and I gave her lunch. Still no idea what was going on. I mentioned in chat that I would wait until my son David comes home and see if she perks up.

Very late last night when I went in the room to go to bed my mom opened her eyes and told me that she was sleeping in a hole and would I please flip her mattress over so she could get a good nights sleep. Wow, had she mentioned two days ago that her mattress needed to be flipped I would have taken care of it then. I asked why she didn't mention it and her reply was, "It wasn't important." So for 2 1/2 days she's miserable sleeping in a hole but she would rather give me the silent treatment than tell me her mattress needs to be flipped.

That was an easy fix! I pray the next silent treatment is as easy to solve as this one was!!!

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Oh my, we DO have the same mother!! Why, oh why, can't they just SAY what they need????? I have told mine that her not telling me what she needs makes my job 100% harder, but she STILL insists on \"not being a bother\"....AAAARRRGGGHHHH!!! I really FEEL for you Lillie, I can so totally identify!

Lillie Fuller

thank you Sally\n


Lillie, I would have been concerned too. Oh, doesn't it seem your are always guessing about stuff...