What's Your Worry? Mine? That I'll Be Mean

Denise

What's Your Worry? Mine? That I'll Be Mean

Denise
worriedWe try to find the silver lining, to focus on the positive, to keep a perspective that keeps us going.

I do my best but honestly, when I think about a future of caring for my parents, I worry that I will be mean. That I'll blow my top over something silly. That I'll say something that I'll regret. I worry that I will be short on patience and compassion and full of snarkiness and judgment.

And, then they'll die and I'll be left with the memories of being unkind.

Ugh.

I wonder: What do you worry about when it comes to how you are during your caregiving experience? Please tell us in our comments section, below.

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PearLady

It's sort of relief that you say such, Gail. I feared I was the only one. It's so tit for tat some days, I'm afraid it'll be the last for all. I've tried to get IRL help to avoid some of the moments, nothing but pie crust promises. Anyway, glad to see you, Nobody, too. (Emily Dickinson poem, in case the reference is lost on anyone)

EllysGdaughter

My concern continues that I would ruin other family members' memories of my Grandma if I should accidentally vent in front of them!

bonabona

I was my mother's co-caregiver when she was alive, before that my father's, and now I am main caregiver for my son, 33, he has Pulmonary Hypertension. One of my worries was and is now, that I would forget something important that they needed, or an appointment I was supposed to take them to.\r\n\r\nAnother one of my worries is when I am over tired coming home from work I can be snippy. I try to double check myself but it happens sometimes, and what if that is the last time I ever talk to them.