Posts Tagged ‘end-of-life’

Lessons on Happiness

I recently read a terrific book called “Happiness is a Choice You Make.” Author John Leland is a NY Times Reporter and he was given the assignment to follow 6 New Yorkers over the age of 85 for a year and chronicle their lives.  John is also the caregiver for his own mother and like…

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Podcast: Learning To Say Good-Bye

I did not have the luxury of saying good-bye to my dad.  He was brought to the emergency room and within 1/2 hour was intubated because of pneumonia.  Two weeks later, he was taken off the ventilator after it became clear that he was never going to breathe by himself any longer.  He would not…

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Book Review: “Memories in Dragonfilies: Simple Lessons for Mindful Dying” by Lannette Cornell Bloom

Reviewed by Kathy Bezinovich RN, Caregiver Consultant and Educator, Dementia Care Practitioner Lannette recounts her story as the primary caregiver for her mother who was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis. The five year journey covers Lannette’s personal  revelations beginning with the importance of mindfulness. Through structuring her life around providing for her mother’s needs, and trying…

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Caring Conversations: A Caregiver’s Guide to Elder Law (Video)

Caregivers face many concerns, including preparing legal documents, selecting a care facility, and identifying a support team for caring for an elderly loved one. Here are some tips for navigating those issues from elder law attorney Carol Applegate. This is the final installment of a ten-part Caring Conversation blog series that provides caregivers with inspiration,…

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Caring Conversations: Caregiver Loneliness During the Holidays

Caregiving schedules and responsibilities can cause you to experience feelings of loneliness, stress, sadness, or isolation during any time of the year. But for many people, these feelings can become stronger during the holiday season. If you’re feeling this way, you’re not alone. In addition to all the hustle and bustle we associate with the…

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Morning Thoughts, Nov 14, 2016

My sweetie’s life span is only one moment long. That is the beauty and the pain of the disease of Alzheimer’s. Within the concept of living in the moment we have found peace. Mindfully, we accept what the two of us are experiencing within this moment. We are aware of the beauty of this moment we…

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After Extreme Caregiving: A Year Later

I miss my SIL. In the year plus since she passed, my life has been constant activity, and really I didn’t have time to grieve. Avoidance! My home had a slab leak and we had four full months of construction, while I was in school full time. And living in a construction zone and taking…

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How Do You Say Goodbye?

An odd question, seems like a simple one. But for family caregivers it’s not always the easiest. Last week on February 1st, my sweet Daddy passed away due to complications of pneumonia. We knew he wasn’t feeling his best, and he had a cough that he couldn’t shake but he was still getting up every…

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How Do You Respond When Your Caree says, “I’m Dying”?

I remember the first time she said it. It was the middle of the night, and I was changing her clothes and stripping her bed for the second time that evening. She was extremely weak physically, though her mind was perfect. Up to this point, we both “pretended” that she would eventually be okay, so…

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“Hospice Sometimes Heals”

I was originally going to title this post “Mom>3; Hospice>0.” However when I read the title expression on Pegi’s blog (@worriedwife) about “A Whole New Hospice“, I knew she had stated it far better For the third time in as many years, Mom has “transitioned” off of hospice care. Since commencing hospice last spring following…

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Transitions

I just read Symbolism In Communication by Chris (@thpurplejacket). He used the word transition in referring to the passing of his partner. The first time I remember hearing the word used in that way was quite a few years ago when a church member stated that her husband, who had  been sick for some time,…

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Shopping No One Wants To Do

What kind of shopping would this be? Um, shopping for funeral arrangements. I know, if you follow tradition, you go with who your family has always used. Well, as we all know, caregiving can put a pinch on our finances, especially if there isn’t ample life insurance to spend freely. When Mom passed, we followed…

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At Peace

My friend passed away today around 3 p.m. I was holding her hand. Her dad and sister had left the room to grab some food from the cafeteria. She passed so peacefully. She no longer is suffering. She will be so missed. Even her nurse was crying. Xhe was so special. 0

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