Posts Tagged ‘frustration’

When They Just Don’t Get it

When mom first moved in with me, I thought I didn’t have any grand illusions that family and friends would gather around us to help. But it turns out I was wrong. I don’t expect a lot. I really don’t. And I don’t need a lot either. But it turns out what little expectations I…

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Caregiving and Outside Forces of Pain

Was this past week hard for you?  It sure was for me and it greatly affected my patience level with my mother.  Despite trying really hard, I found myself caught up in what unfolded on Thursday.  I just felt so sad and depressed all day and so powerless.  I am not a victim of sexual…

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In Six Words, What’s a Bad Caregiving Day?

Some bad caregiving day can seem so unbelievable that you can’t find words to describe it. Other ones need just six words. For this six-word story, share what a caregiving bad day is like for you. In our comments section, below, you can share as many six-word stories about a bad caregiving day as you’d…

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Tell Us: What’s Today’s Discouragement?

A caree who declines, family members who disappear, a day that never ends. Caregiving can be so discouraging. Today, what’s discouraging for you? Please share what’s getting to you in our comments section, below. We understand and I hope it will help to say it out loud (so to speak) to us.     0

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Sorry Dad, I Need To Be The Bad Guy

I still remember the call from my mother. “Your dad was in another accident.” This time, while trying to park, he overshot the space, went over a curb and the car landed in a ditch.   Someone in a nearby store called the police and they came and helped him out of the car and drove…

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My Mini Meltdown

Last week, I had a “mini-meltdown.” I had a really stressful day at work where everything that could go wrong did go wrong, my knee was really hurting and I was feeling really overwhelmed. When I came home from work, I wanted nothing more than to be with my dogs, on the couch and not…

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Sunset and Caregiving

For caregivers and their loved ones the incredible beauty of a sunset is often overshadowed by confusion, distrust, and escalating stress. Even before I had a chance to knock on his sitting room door I heard Rodger’s voice. “You better not try anything funny. I know how to defend myself!” As startling as his words…

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Let’s Support Nursing Home Caregivers

Have you ever met anyone who said, “my ultimate goal when I get older is live out my last days in a nursing home?”  No – well, me either.  Yet, according to statistics from The National Caregiving Alliance, in 2012, there were 1.4 million people in nursing homes nationally or about 13% of us age…

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Please! Just Give Us a Solution!

Last week I shared an article on social media called “Caring for Your Parents Can Put a Dent in Your Budget.” The article notes, “More than two-thirds of caregivers (68 percent) report providing financial support related to their role, according to Northwestern Mutual’s 2018 C.A.R.E. Study.” After sharing the story, it occurred to me that…

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A Caregiving Comfort: Ring

Some rings are just a nuisance like the infamous ring around the collar. Some rings are just bothersome like the one around the sink. And, some rings are just too much. When the phone rings, it feels like it’s bad news calling. The home health aide will be late. The credit card company wants you…

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Tell Us: How Do You Manage the Stares?

I started following a mom on Twitter who shares about her life caring for her three children, including one with special needs. Earlier this year, she shared this tweet: People w/ facial deformities experience a lot of cruelty. The Hate & Stares I received when Sophia was a baby were painful & made me hide…

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Back to the Beginning

In late-2013 I was finally able — after years of begging, okay nagging — to get my mother to realize there was a problem. Got in to see a neurologist in February of 2014 and after about a ba-zillion tests got the diagnosis — PPA. In May that same year got Mom to agree that…

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Stop Yelling at Me!

My child’s health is going down hill. In addition to hallucinations, zone-out moments, she now is coughing and yesterday she saw “lights with little white poufs“. Today we were supposed to see a psychiatrist to try to figure out what is happening.  I had to chase two doctors to pull this off. In the background……

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