Posts Tagged ‘nursing home’

The War Between the North and the South

My little mother looks like a Civil War refugee. All four of her limbs are bandaged. I can almost hear the Fife and Drum Corp warbling in the background. But she is definitely one small game token in a much larger engagement. I had been caring for her at home with the help of Hospice…

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“Every Hour is Precious”

A few weeks ago my Mom fell and broke her hip. Due to her already diminished mental capacity (late stage dementia) and weakened physical state prior to the fall, I elected to forgo surgery. The picture painted by doctors looked the same whether we operated or not. The upside to surgery was negligible at best…

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Yin and Yang

My caregiving story is far from over even though my mom is settling nicely into the nursing home after three weeks. She is eating supper in the dining room with the other residents, getting fitted for an additional leg brace and starting some physical therapy and according to the staff she is a pleasure. Of…

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I Had a Bad Day!

I have been washing Myron’s things every couple of days as he has been flooding his bathroom floor and soaking  his slippers, clothes and blankets. Today when I walked in  to the nursing home, he was in the hall and the aid was trying to get him to his room to put on socks and…

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Changes

Well, my mom went in a nursing home on Wednesday. It all happened very quickly. I drove to visit one that had openings a couple of hours away. It is small, highly rated, near my husband’s family and recommended by a friend who has her Mother there. I really loved it and I could have…

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A Move from Personal Care Home to Nursing Home

Making the change from a personal care home to a nursing home is very difficult. But funds were running low and I also believe he needed more medical care as he has deteriorated in the past few months. Still, knowing it was necessary and working hard to make it happen doesn’t change all the emotions…

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I Feel Like Screaming and Crying at the Same Time!

Brief History: Two years ago, my sister, I’ll call Annette, finally asks for help and agrees she needs long-term treatment (for psych issues which include depression, lifetime of poor decision making and impulsive behavior); We are thrilled and help her find group home with long-term treatment; She does really well there and for once likes…

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Goodbyes, Hello, and Love

The two hardest things to say in life are hello for the first time and goodbye for the last — Moira Rogers I read the above quote this week and thought it a perfectly fitting expression. Several members of our caregiving family are dealing with the saying of goodbye and I know from past experience,…

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Ten Tips to Effective Communication with Facility Staff

You’ve recently moved your mom to an assisted living facility. You’re working through the adjustment as best you can. Unfortunately, your mom’s complaints begin to pile up: She eats breakfast too late. She waits too long for help. She hates her roommate. What can you do to ensure your mom has what she needs? These…

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Why Did You Put Me Here?

Amy cared her mom, Edith, at home until, well, her life fell apart. First, Amy lost her job. Then, she lost her home to foreclosure. She knew she could live temporarily with a friend. Obviously, her mom, with her care needs, couldn’t move in with Amy’s friend. So, Amy and Edith looked at skilled nursing…

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I Want to Go Home

“I want to go home.” You hear the words when you visit your caree in the nursing home or at your home in the afternoon when your caree’s confusion increases or on sad days when your caree just longs for a life that’s gone. Five small words that feel like a dagger in the heart.…

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Is There a Better Place?

I went to visit Dad today and found out he was miserable. Lately this has been the norm but this time he seemed even more aggravated. So I asked why he was so miserable and heard how the CNA at his nursing home let him sleep late this morning and it messed up his whole…

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Easy Breezy Summertime

I’m experiencing a unique time in my life. For the first time in over six years, there is no immediate, pressing, red-letter emergency brewing. I haven’t been to the Emergency Room in months. No one is in the hospital. No rushed trips home, only a few urgent phone calls. It’s been weird. Mind you, I…

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