We hear the word “transfer” regularly during our caregiving experience. Our caree will be transferred — to home, from the hospital. We need to transfer our caree — to the commode, from the wheelchair. Health care professionals say “transfer” so matter-of-factly. For us, a transfer is anything but. With every transfer we have to trust.…

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In my quest to be as prepared as possible for the coronavirus, I asked Jessica Sima, RN and Certified Caregiving Consultant and Educator, to join us for a virtual meeting which took place on March 12 at 8 p.m. ET (7 p.m. CT, 5 p.m. PT). During our meeting, we discussed supplies we can keep…

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Theresa Wilbanks, Certified Caregiving Consultant™ and Certified Caregiving Educator™, joined me to talk out our plans for the unexpected, including the coronavirus. Theresa cares for her 98-year-old father and I help my 88-year-old father and 85-year-old mother. After listening to our episode, please share any insights or experiences in our comments section, below. Resources Family…

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We save so much. We save all the paperwork the health care system gives and the insurance provider sends. We save our caree from harm as often as humanly possible. We save others from the stress and worries of caregiving because we do what they won’t. Who will save us? Who will save us when…

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In the past, we’ve defined “caregiving” through our six-word stories. Fort this one, I’d love for you to describe it. Write a story about how caregiving feels to you and looks to us. You also can write a six-word story about your responsibilities, pressure and worries. Feel free to write as many six-word stories as…

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Some bad caregiving day can seem so unbelievable that you can’t find words to describe it. Other ones need just six words. For this six-word story, share what a caregiving bad day is like for you. In our comments section, below, you can share as many six-word stories about a bad caregiving day as you’d…

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We wait for doctors to call us back. We wait for results. We wait in the ER, the hospital, the doctor’s office. We wait for our caree. We wait for the help to arrive. During caregiving, we wait. For this six-word story, let’s write about waiting. You can share a wait or how you feel…

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The slip has somehow become the enemy. It’s not what I wear but I what I fear. Will my mom slip? Will I slip and overlook what’s most important? Will I slip and disclose what my parents have asked I keep mum about? It’s a slippery slope, this caregiving gig. So I look for the…

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It’s getting to me. I’m anticipating the next decline and the action to accommodate the decline. I’m practicing the next conversation during which we discuss the most recent decline. I’m dreading cleaning and grocery shopping and bank balancing. I’m anxious before bedtime wondering if a phone call about a late-night fall will put me in…

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My mother was born on her aunt’s birthday. Her name is the reverse of her aunt’s — Agnes Eva for Eva Agnes. Great Aunt Eva had some unknown form of dementia that took her in her early fifties. The end was quite simply that she quit eating because she thought she was being poisoned and…

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My child’s health is going down hill. In addition to hallucinations, zone-out moments, she now is coughing and yesterday she saw “lights with little white poufs“. Today we were supposed to see a psychiatrist to try to figure out what is happening.  I had to chase two doctors to pull this off. In the background……

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So the holidays were rather … crappy. To say the least. The new year isn’t shaping up much better. Mom had no idea what Christmas was, could not understand why I kept handing her gift bags to open and then had no idea how to open them. Days before yup, she was engaged and enjoying…

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Sometimes, you dread what could drop. You can hear the swoosh of the other shoe that’s about to drop which will ruin the day, change the plans, spoil the status quo. Ugh. If you only could catch the shoe before it drops. You know what your sister will give during the next family get-together —…

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